I haven't posted an entry for over two weeks? Gosh, so sorry. I've been simply too busy with the family obligations - you know how that goes...
Anyway, I want to talk about Ashley Madison today; specifically about those single males and females. No, I don't want to discriminate against the single ones, but I honestly thought Ashley Madison is for those who are married and looking to date. Maybe that was when I signed up for it over two years ago? Maybe time has changed???
When Paul and I met on Ashley Madsison, it was clear that we're both married. And we both had the notion that we wouldn't want to date anyone who's single. We both said, we wanted to find someone who's in the same circumstances with the same restriction. But moreover, we wanted to find someone that had the same risk to lose somthing so important in our lives: Family. And I wouldn't want to be with anyone who had nothing to lose becasue if I was looking for a new husband, I would have signed up for Match.com or eHarmony.
It's true, I received countless emails from both married and single guys before I met Paul, but I never responded to the winks and messages from single guys. I hardly believe that the single guys would be risky - I'm sure they have no problem having one of those "No String Attached Sex" and I'm sure they're on AM because they want nothing to do with commitment type of relationship; or they want to sleep with married women and get high off it; or they're in a long term relationship just like married people and want something exciting; or they're just curious.
What I've noticed lately, a lot, when I get a daily email from Ashley Madison informing me about the new members in my area is that more than half of the men who sign up for AM are single male, age - 20 - 30. They are young.
I just don't understand why on earth those young kids who should be able to go out and meet a nice girl would want to sign up for a website like AM? I strongly believe Ashley Madison is for married couple, not for single female and males. Even their website says, "Do you want to have an affair?" - seriously, AM is for people like us, who can't go out and find a new boyfriend or a girlfriend because we're married.
I don't know where I'm going with this post, but am I wrong here? Do I sound like an old lady? But ff you're a single, but cruise around married dating sites, tell me, why? Why are you looking for a married women/men?
8 comments:
I have noticed the same thing, and also find it kind of odd. Now to some degree it does not matter to me, I'm not looking for another lover. But the single women I see as new members are also young. My thought on the young single women on the site is that with the economy in the tank, perhaps some are looking for a sugar daddy. For the young single men, well perhaps they see it as an easy way to get laid. Who knows? But I do think it sort of dilutes the whole purpose of the site.
You are correct.
Cougar mania? I don't know what it is either... but then I haven't noticed it from my side of the gender aisle.
I'm with you, though... they have plenty of sites, we pretty much just have Ashley. Like you, I want that level playing field, too... in fact I think I have those words you used... "same circumstances"... in my AM profile.
J: I know! The whole purpose of the site is for the married people to have an affair, or at least that's why AM was so original and unique. Now the site is turning into AFF which I'm not a fan of. But then, I realize I don't need to worry about it because I'm not looking for another lover either. But it frustrates me - I feel like they (single ones) are invading our secret territory.
Secretia: Thank you, thank you!
Saxman: Cugar mania are welcome as long as they are married and young! LOL. I have to have a partner that is in the same shoes and lifestyle...
Hi Luna!
i gotta say, that is kind of weird. i don't go out SEEKING married men, i happened on it by accident. but as far me in my life, i am not looking for a full time boyfriend. my daughter makes it absolutely impossible and i don't need that stress! dating a married man is ok for me for now, because he understands the responsibilities of having kids, and doesn't have time to be with me all the time. therefor, my daughter is not jealous and doesn't feel threatened. however when she turns 17ish, i will want to find a full time boyfriend. until then i am happy. maybe the singles have reasons like that? they want their space? or maybe they want to give a woman GREAT SEX to feel good about themselves. who knows?
-cs
i dont why people would purposely go for married men or women. i ended up with a married man with the intentions of just showing him a good time and wanting to give him excitement he has never had. then i fell in love. i guess the appeal is making someone feel great and still having freedom with no commitment. too bad i am committed and completely in love. and now Im the one hurt. -cs
Hey, I just found your blog and thought I would comment on this.
After I separated from my STBXH, I put up a profile on AM. For me, I knew that I wasn't looking for anything serious, and I knew the ins and outs of AM as a married person, so I thought it would work for me as a "single." (I guess I wasn't officially single, but I did have my own place, which is pretty close.)
I also had a boyfriend/lover at the time, and I was hoping things would work out between us, so I didn't want to get myself tangled in anything emotional. Married guys felt safer to me -- they didn't have as much time to see me and already had someone to direct their emotions to (their wives.)
I think my situation is probably quite unique, though.
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